nzgirl Sex School: The Male G-Spot

Once again, the lovely Ema from D.VICE, promised us a lesson full of all the things we never knew (and couldn’t imagine) about the art of sex. When the news broke at nzgirl HQ that this week’s Sex School was on the male G spot, we were all a little flustered – but if we were flustered, the boys in our lives were downright terrified!

There was nothing to fear though, as Ema guided us gently through the process of finding the male G spot and told us what to do once we got there. Turns out, it’s not that scary and Ema told us that guys absolutely love it (once they get used to the idea) so if your boy’s in the running for a little treat, read on ladies!

 

 

We’re not the only lucky ones; guys also have their own little fun button. Obviously they don’t have vaginas to keep theirs inside, so it’s safely tucked up just inside their rectum. The male G spot is about five to seven centimetres up, on the inside wall of their rectum (the side closest to their penis). It’s formed by the prostate gland (so is sometimes called the P-spot) and is a firm bump about the size of a walnut. Like the female G-spot, it responds to firm pressure and stimulation, in a regular rhythm. Some guys report climaxing just from stimulation of the G spot and many say it gives them a more intense and full body orgasm.

 

If you’re anything like us, you’ll be having niggling thoughts that finding a guy’s G spot might not be the cleanest thing you’ve ever done. Ema says to put any thought of poo-contact out of your mind, as a normal healthy digestive system ensures that the rectum is totally empty after going to the toilet. If you’re still worried you can introduce your partner to an anal douche – though using it too often, or using soap instead of just warm water, can strip the rectum of healthy bacteria.

 

 

A lot of guys get a little freaked out by the whole idea of you going near their other end, so it pays to break the idea to them slowly. As sad as it is, there will always be a few out guys who react to the whole idea with a big ol’ spiel about how they’re not gay so they don’t want anything in their bum. Explain to them (nice and slowly) that to be gay they would need to be attracted to men for love and companionship, and that since they’re with you, they’re probably not. Also explain that their fear is keeping them from the best damn orgasm they might ever have and that a willingness to explore sexuality indicates a very mature, well developed man. All men have G spots, so why not use them! Once he’s used to the idea, light some candles, put on Marvin Gaye and grab your latex gloves – it’s G-spot time.

 

Ema recommends that the first time you and your man explore his G spot, you do it with your fingers. There’s a plethora of toys out there (which you’ll hear all about in a bit) but using a finger is gentler, and you can be more responsive to how he’s feeling. Wear latex gloves to ensure you don’t cut him with your fingernails and lube your finger, and him, up as much as possible. Lube is absolutely crucial, as the anus doesn’t produce any natural lubricant – he’ll never forgive you if you try it dry.

Work your finger a little way inside; you might feel his muscles clench up, but if so, just pause for 20-30 seconds until he relaxes again. Repeat this until your finger is inside, and he is completely relaxed, then feel around for his G spot. It should feel quite firm and may be a little bumpy. Stimulate this in a regular firm rhythm, and get him to keep talking – you want him to tell you what feels good until it’s mind blowing, not endure it until your finger gets tired. If he’s too chicken to let you near his rectum, Ema says that men can best stimulate their own G spot by lying on their back with their legs over their heads (though you might need to send him to pilates class first).

Ema bought in a huge range of boys’ toys for show and tell with us, but she recommends you only try them after you’ve mastered the art of stimulating him by hand. One of our favourites was the Rude Boy, brother to the fabulous Rock Chick, female G spot stimulator, we saw last lesson. This will appeal to a lot of guys, as it doesn’t look at all like a penis, but is a smooth c-shape. The Rude Boy is slick in black with a genius steel roller ball on one end.

The idea is that while one end of the Rude Boy stimulates the G spot, the roller ball end slides along the perineum glands (on the outside, between the scrotum and anus) creating a licking sensation. Genius! It also vibrates, is not too big, and is in an easy clean material. Ema points out that all anal toys must have a flared base, because unlike the vagina, it doesn’t have another end and your boy could end up with sex toys in his digestive tract – not fun for anyone!

 

If you’re feeling really risqué, Ema recommends trying one of D.VICE’s strap-on dildos. It’s role reversal taken to extremes and will add a whole new dimension to your sex life. Apparently, heaps of people are doing it, (ask a bunch of friends and see who blushes) and Ema says that she sees loads of heterosexual couples investing in harnesses to liven things up. Ema brought us two hip harnesses that go on around your legs and waist, and one that straps to your thigh. Imagine coming home and telling your boy to ride your leg! Probably not for the faint hearted but it gave us loads of laughs in the office when two of the girls strapped them on and strutted around with their ‘penises’ swinging.

 

So there you have it ladies, the male G spot - not so scary once you know all about it. For more information see D.VICE’s website, or Ema recommends The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex by Violet Blue, also available from D.VICE. Watch out for Sex School, lesson 3, coming next fortnight – it’s a surprise topic, but we promise you’ll learn just as much as you did this time. All that’s left for you to do now is print this out, show it to your boy and invest in some great lube. Good luck!